Saturday, February 6, 2010

It's a BOY!!!!!!

Or maybe it's a girl. We don't know, YET.

However, EVERYONE seems to have an opinion.
I don't mind people guessing or speculating the gender of Baby J.
I don't even mind when they ask if we're hoping for a boy or another girl.

It's the ones that say, "Oh, I bet you're hoping for a boy this time," that REALLY gets on my nerves. Or worse, "Oh NO! What if you get ANOTHER girl!!!" You know, as though having THREE girls would be the kiss of death or something.

Why do people automatically assume I/we want, hope and wish this baby is a boy?

I guess it all ties into the 'American Dream', where everyone SHOULD want to have 2.5 children, of which one is a boy and one is a girl. What about that .5?

What if I tell you I would absolutely LOVE another girl?
What if I tell you I would absolutely LOVE a boy?
What if...what if I tell you how I'd really like to answer the question of whether or not we are hopeful for a boy?

I'd say:
"Frankly, I don't give a flying flip about the gender of our baby! I just hope and pray during each OB visit that when the nurse places the cold microphone-looking wand on my lower abdomen we will hear a strong 'swhoosh, swhoosh, swhoosh.' I pray that in less than a month, the ultra sound technician has a smile on her face as she waves the blue goop slathered sonogram receiver over my naval, and I hope she maintains her smile throughout the entire survey. I pray that sometime in July, I give birth to a screaming crying baby who nuzzles into my neck and suddenly calms down with the peace of knowing I am HIS or HER Mommy. So, no, I don't care if it's a boy, or a girl for that matter. I just want a living breathing baby to hold."

But, THAT wouldn't be the 'nice' answer.

So, in the meantime, when people ask me if I'm hoping for a boy/girl, I will say "Yes." Because I am.


James Patrick said...

Well said C! I pray everyday for your beautiful Rainbow baby. I pray that lots and lots of baby screaming is in your future until you get that snuggle moment!! And of course I look forward to photographing him or her immediatly!!

Sara said...

People did me that way too with Bryson. Then when I told people he was a boy they actually would say, "OH NO!!!! Another boy! What are you going to do?!?" Don't be surprised if people do this too you. I just blew them of by telling them God knew I wouldn't have any idea what to do with a girl (which is so true) and walked away.
What I thought was worse was when people would ask the names we had picked out and we would tell them. They would snarl their noses and tell me they didn't like it. We finally started telling people we weren't telling the names we were trying to decide on.

Candy said...

I love this post. I couldn't agree more! When I was pregnant with Silas everyone wanted me to have a boy. I didn't care. I had so much fun with my girl that it didn't matter to me if I had another girl to add to our family. Having one of each is nice, but it's not any better than having all girls or all boys =) Praying for you and Baby J!